, Sally, I'm so sorry that you're going through that.I wish I had a magic wand to make your pain go away.(If you share the lease, deal with it like responsible adults. Resist the urge, however, to call or text whenever you would have when you were still dating. Ask a close friend if you can call him/her every time you would usually reach out to your ex. Besides, if your ex rejects you a second time, it won’t just hurt; the rejection will sting with extra humiliation and regret. No woman on her deathbed says, “I really wish I slept with my ex-husband one last time.” Let the break be clean.
No one would wake up one day and wonder WTF happened for them to get there. You're seeing that fresh beginning that graces a relationship with someone new and every bit of it reminds you of what it was like when it was actually good between you and him.
Analyzing what he's doing with the new woman just keeps you stuck and thinking potentially ugly thoughts about yourself.
He could be doing all sorts of bizarre behavior with her or he could be a perfect angel (for right now). Believing that you did something to bring all of this on is simple victim-blaming.
You don’t have to sob at the office, but take some quiet moments to reflect and be honest with yourself. It’s healthier to express yourself honestly than grow numb.
The temptation may be to pretend you’re unaffected by the breakup; don’t let pride get in the way of being real.